At Aspire Charter Academy, we understand the challenges parents and teachers face when asking children to listen. At times, it may feel like they purposely don’t listen, or they may look as if they are listening, but later, it is revealed they haven’t received any of the information. Part of this situation is just part of childhood and developmental stages; however, there are ways you can teach your children better listening skills that will help them. Children like to feel they are part of education, rather than just being told what to do. At Aspire Charter Academy, we specialize in an interactive one-on-one educational basis.
As daunting of a task it may seem, teaching your children good listening skills is not impossible, and the more you try, the more likely they will be able to digest the information. Here are five ways to teach your child how to listen well:
Encourage questions.
A central part of listening isn’t just focusing on the words being said. Active listening requires questions. Let your child know that it is okay to ask questions. After you finish speaking, ask if they have any questions. When your child inquires about what is being said, they will be able to think critically and understand better the message that is being conveyed.
Reward good listening.
Kind words, a small treat, and positive encouragement are all good ways to reward good listening. Positive reinforcement works best. When children are rewarded for good behavior, they will be more likely to act out those behaviors in the future. “Good question!” “You’re on the right track!” “I can tell you were really listening!” These types of phrases go a long way in reinforcing listening skills.
Stay concise.
Don’t use too many words. When too many words are used, the message becomes diluted and harder to understand. Limit instructions to only 1 or 2 at a time. With a smaller amount of specific words, you can clearly and effectively communicate to your child. When a topic requires a longer explanation, break it down into smaller parts and check for understanding along the way.
Ask questions too.
When you as the parent ask questions, you engage cooperation. For example, asking if they understand ensures some semblance of absorbing the message. This will also keep them active in the conversation, requiring them to listen more. You could also ask your children to repeat back what they heard. As they do, you will see if they have missed anything important and you can review.
Encourage focus.
While this may be the most difficult tip to teach, it is still worth mentioning. Help your child focus on what is being said. Keeping eye contact is one strategy. Provide an area free from distraction. Ask your child to pause what they are doing and let them know you have something important you want them to hear.
Listening is a vital part of any education. With active listening skills, anyone can learn effectively. At Aspire Charter Academy, we not only foster active listening, we also foster active learning. We believe a positive environment is the best space for a good education. Call us today at 407-297-9955.
